Falling in love
Falling in~love :
state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship, feeling that we belong to each other. We believe we can conquer all problems.As one young man said about his fiancee, I can't conceive if doing anything to hurt her. My only desire is to make her happy.I would do anything to make her happy. Such obsession gives us the false sense that our egocentric attitudes have been eradicated and we have become sort of a Mother Teresa, willing to give for the benefit of our lover. The reason we can do that so freely is that we sincerely believe that our lover feel the same way toward us. We believe she is committed to meeting our needs, that he loves us as much as we love him and would never do anything to hurt us.
Remember, the average in~love experience last two years we will return to the world of reality and begin to assert ourselves. He will express his desires, but his desires will be different from hers. He desire sex but she is too tired. He want to play tennis tournament and says"you love tennis more than you love me".little by little the illusion of intimacy evaporates and the individual desires, emotion, thought and behavior pattern exert themself. The are two different individuals.
Note:The in~love experience does not focus on our individual growth and development of the other person,Rather it gives us the sense that we have arrived. If falling in ~love is not real love.What is it?
state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship, feeling that we belong to each other. We believe we can conquer all problems.As one young man said about his fiancee, I can't conceive if doing anything to hurt her. My only desire is to make her happy.I would do anything to make her happy. Such obsession gives us the false sense that our egocentric attitudes have been eradicated and we have become sort of a Mother Teresa, willing to give for the benefit of our lover. The reason we can do that so freely is that we sincerely believe that our lover feel the same way toward us. We believe she is committed to meeting our needs, that he loves us as much as we love him and would never do anything to hurt us.
Remember, the average in~love experience last two years we will return to the world of reality and begin to assert ourselves. He will express his desires, but his desires will be different from hers. He desire sex but she is too tired. He want to play tennis tournament and says"you love tennis more than you love me".little by little the illusion of intimacy evaporates and the individual desires, emotion, thought and behavior pattern exert themself. The are two different individuals.
Note:The in~love experience does not focus on our individual growth and development of the other person,Rather it gives us the sense that we have arrived. If falling in ~love is not real love.What is it?
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